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LOS ANGELES TIMES
New ground in debate on 'curing' gays
Christian
ministries who see homosexuality as a treatable disorder are starting to think
that choice may not be a factor.
By Stephanie Simon, Times Staff Writer
June 18, 2007
Alan Chambers directs Exodus International, widely described as the nation's
largest ex-gay ministry. But when he addresses the group's Freedom Conference at
Concordia University in Irvine this month, Chambers won't celebrate successful
"ex-gays."
Truth is, he's not sure he's ever met one.
With years of therapy, Chambers says, he has mostly conquered his own attraction
to men; he's a husband and a father, and he identifies as straight. But lately,
he's come to resent the term "ex-gay": It's too neat, implying a clean break
with the past, when he still struggles at times with homosexual temptation. "By
no means would we ever say change can be sudden or complete," Chambers said.
His personal denunciation of the term "ex-gay" — his organization has yet to
follow suit — is just one example of shifting ground in the polarizing debate on
homosexuality.
Despite the fundamental gulf that divides them, gay-rights activists and those
who see homosexuality as a sinful disorder are starting to reach agreement on
some practical points.
Chambers and other Exodus leaders talk deliberately about a possible biological
basis for homosexuality, in part to explain that no one can turn a switch and
flip from gay to straight, no matter how hard they pray.
A leading conservative theologian outside the ex-gay movement recently echoed
the view that homosexuality may not be a choice, but a matter of DNA. To the
shock and anger of many of his constituents, the Rev. R. Albert Mohler Jr.,
president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, wrote that "we should
not be surprised" to find a genetic basis for sexual orientation.
That's heretical to many conservative Christians. But it's a view increasingly
embraced by the public at large; a Gallup Poll last month found that 42% of
adults believe sexual orientation is present at birth. (Three decades ago, when
Gallup first asked the question, just 13% held that view.)
Mohler's willingness to discuss the issue was welcomed by Dr. Jack Drescher, a
New York psychiatrist who advocates for gay rights and has been a vocal critic
of the ex-gay movement. "I saw it as a sign of openness," Drescher said.
"Something's happening. And I think it's very positive," agreed Michael Bussee,
who founded Exodus in 1976, only to fall in love with another man — a fellow
ex-gay counselor.
Now a licensed family therapist in Riverside, Bussee regularly speaks out
against ex-gay therapies and is scheduled to address the Ex-Gay Survivor's
Conference at UC Irvine at the end of the month.
But Bussee put aside his protest agenda recently to endorse new guidelines to
sexual identity therapy, co-written by two professors at conservative Christian
colleges.
He and other gay activists — along with major mental-health associations — still
reject therapy aimed at "liberating" or "curing" gays. But Bussee is willing to
acknowledge potential in therapy that does not promise change but instead offers
patients help in managing their desires and modifying their behavior to match
their religious values — even if that means a life of celibacy.
"It's about helping clients accept that they have these same-sex attractions and
then allowing them the space, free from bias, to choose how they want to act,"
said Lee Beckstead, a gay psychologist in Salt Lake City who uses this approach.
The guidelines for this type of therapy — written by Warren Throckmorton of
Grove City College and Mark Yarhouse of Regent University — have been endorsed
by representatives on both the left and right. The list includes the provost of
a conservative evangelical college and the psychiatrist whose gay-rights
advocacy in the 1970s got homosexuality removed from the official medical list
of mental disorders.
"What appeals to me is that it moves away from the total polarization" common in
the field, said Dr. Robert Spitzer, the psychiatrist.
"For many years, mental-health professionals have taken the view that since
homosexuality is not a mental disorder, any attempt to change sexual orientation
is unwise," said Spitzer, a Columbia University professor.
Some therapies are widely considered dangerous, and some rely on discredited
psychological theories. "But for healthcare professionals to tell someone they
don't have the right to make an effort to bring their actions into harmony with
their values is hubris," Spitzer said.
Activists on both sides caution that the rapprochement only goes so far.
Critics of Exodus note the group still sponsors speakers who attribute
homosexuality to bad parenting and assert that gays and lesbians live short,
unhappy lives.
And though Chambers has disavowed the term "ex-gay," his group's ads give the
distinct impression that it's possible to leave homosexuality completely behind.
The Irvine conference, for instance, is being promoted with radio spots that
talk of "sudden, radical and complete" transformation. (Chambers apologized for
those ads in a recent interview, saying they were meant to urge church leaders
to radically change the way they treat gays and lesbians, not to imply that
conference-goers would magically transform their orientation.)
The American Psychological Assn. set up a task force this spring to revise the
group's policy on sexual orientation therapy. The current policy is a decade old
and fairly vague; it states that homosexuality is not a disorder and that
therapists can't make false claims about their treatments.
The new policy, due early next year, must help psychologists uphold two ethical
principles as they work with patients unhappy about their sexuality: "Respect
for the autonomy and dignity of the patient, and a duty to do no harm," said
Clinton Anderson, the association's director for lesbian, gay and bisexual
concerns. "It's a balancing act."
stephanie.simon@latimes.com
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